Conscious attention to you Behavior (ACTIONS), Thoughts, and Feelings is always the first step of development. You can't change until you recognize your current condition.
Do the behaviors I typically display in particular situations support my goals and the goals of my team, or do they get in the way of them?
Which specific skills and behaviors, which emotions, occurring in which situations, do you have concerns about?
Re-frame feedback as just 'data', an observation with some evaluative judgment from another person. It's only through reflection that you turn this data into meaningful and actionable reflection insights.
- What (event) happened?
- Why did I act as I did; and how did this impact the events
- How might I have acted differently
- What now for my skill development
SWOT analysis (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, Threats)
Perks of keeping journal:
- discipline (organize; structure)
- distance between events and actions and your immediate reactions
- record of outcomes (patterns in your behavior)
- act of writing down your goals can increase your recall and your motivation to reach them
Both mental subtraction and what-might-have-been thinking are skills that should be in everyone's cognitive toolbox.
- The ability to resist short-term temptations to achieve long-term goals
- The determination to do as you say, you'll do no matter what obstacles or temptations are put in your way.
- 40% of actions we take aren't decisions; they're part of the mental routines we create, which are basically shortcuts, helping us operate on automatic.
Social Cognitive Theory focuses on the reciprocal influences of three aspects: person, behavior, and environment.
Visualize the PROCESS (step by step actions) instead the end goal.
- Positive thinking fools our minds into perceiving that we've already attained our goal, slackening our readiness to pursue it.
- Writing out the if-then scenarios is a great way to keep it crystal clear in your head. Thinking through these things ahead of time allows you to be more ready to make decisions.
- Being properly prepared - from training to planning - will keep you in the game.
- Pressure is just a lack of preparation.
- WOOP = Wish; Outcome; Obstacle; Plan
- is a "response to conflict and confusion in our brain". #think of a child smiling at funeral; because it can not understand what is happening, why their relative does not respond...
- "Satire is to afflict the comfortable and comfort the afflicted" - Josie Long
- If we find a joke offensive, we protest by not laughing at it.
- A good joke packs a harder punch than many other forms of dialogue, and it can reach people who would otherwise be unwilling to listen
Mess equals stress
One member of the Berlin school was a young experimental psychologist named Bluma Zeigarnik. Intrigued, she demonstrated that people have a better recollection of uncompleted tasks. This is called the "Zeigarnik effect": when we leave things unfinished, we can't quite let go of them mentally. Our subconscious keeps reminding us that the task needs attention.
Rate Your Personal Values:
Find your top5 traits and label them ( Big Rock > Core > Secondary )
|Challenge / Aspiration
Changing the world
Collaboration with others
Flexible work arrangements
Income based on productivity
Intellectually demanding work
Interaction with others
Opportunity for advancement
Opportunity to lead
Seeing tangible results
Variety of tasks
- What's important to you in life?
- If you could have any career, without worrying about money or other practical constraints, what would you do?
- When you're reading news stories, what sort of story or behavior tends to inspire you?
- What type of story or behavior makes you angry?
- What do you want to change about the world or about yourself?
- What are you most proud of?
- When were you the happiest?